What does self-confidence mean to you?
Is it when you are sure you are in your right place in the world and making a difference?
When you know you are doing a great job and adding value with your work?
When all your relationships are working well and no-one is upset with you?
That third one may be your weak spot!
Why? Because you aren’t really in control of that. Other people do what they do and think what they think and may see you very differently that you see yourself. Trying to please everyone in your life is a waste of time and energy.
Our family especially can take us to the mat in a heartbeat. They often have a fixed, outdated picture of us that doesn’t relate to our present reality at all. And they often don’t want us to change, especially to move into our BIGNESS.
I noticed this past month that my self-confidence plummeted when I was not feeling my best – after eating all my suspected allergens before my allergy test.
I think that is a big snag with getting older. We may go through more times when our health is not the best and it would be a good thing to not feel emotionally down at the same time.
So I was wondering how to maintain my self-confidence on days that I felt like throwing in the towel and going back to bed. Actually I smile when I say that because I haven’t had a day in bed since I can remember 😉
Here are some ways that work for me:
My own version of the morning meditation, you’ll find the free download here -meditation. Pay special attention to the third eye chakra, where you allow yourself to see your true beauty and brilliance.
Remembering a time when I felt supremely self-confident, I knew I had just hit it out of the park, and feeling that feeling in my body, and then anchoring it in by saying something like “I am in my right place today.”
Doing something fun just for me. Walking on the beach or doing some artwork.
Doing something that I know I am successful with, it’s just easy for me.
Sending heart energy to the person who is upset with me or who I am upset with. Seeing the situation from a distance high above my head, closer to Source, and knowing that this came up to teach us both something.
Using the Tapping for Joy tool that I mention on the emotional clearing page.
Helping someone in need. Putting a smile on someone’s face.
Anything we are doing that has the word ‘self’ in front of it: self-love, self-confidence, self-esteem, self-control, is always a work in progress. Some days it will be present in our lives everywhere we turn and then the Universe brings us something new to deal with and we are back in the trenches.
We don’t get done while we are still in a body 😉
Unless we are in a cave in the Himalayas maybe.
100 day challenge check-in. I’m on my eighth day and I had difficulty with my first trapeze lesson. It was hard to get on the darn thing. To bring my legs from vertical to over my head seemed to be impossible – not a movement we practice much in this culture 😉
So I’m back to basics, strengthening the core with the exercises that I am doing here in this video. When I’m actually on the trapeze I loved it.
May you feel confident enough to move into your BIGNESS this week!